Two weeks ago, I was invited to my friend’s baby shower.
I was thrilled and wanted to make it special, so I volunteered to cook for 50 people. I spent the entire day before the event chopping, baking, and cooking—imagining how fun it would be to celebrate this milestone together.
Late that evening, just as I was finishing up, I got a message from her. She said there wasn’t enough space at the venue, so she had to uninvite me—but still wanted me to drop off the food.
I froze. I had poured so much time, energy, and money into making sure everything was perfect, only to be told I couldn’t even attend.
After a moment of hurt, I made a calm decision. I replied, thanking her for the invite, but letting her know I wouldn’t be able to deliver the food either, since my plans had changed.
The next day, I heard from mutual friends that the shower didn’t go as smoothly as planned—they ran out of food.
It stung to realize my kindness had been taken for granted. But it also taught me something important: setting boundaries is okay. Effort should be mutual, and when it isn’t valued, it’s healthier to step back.
I don’t hold a grudge, but I’ve learned to cherish the relationships where my love, time, and energy are truly appreciated. Because real friends don’t just take what you give—they treasure it.